Postponing Your Wedding During This Covid Pandemic
Couples rarely prepare for the scenario of having to change their wedding date. It just seems so unfair after all the organising you’ve had to do and all your planning. But you can get through it and have an even better wedding on the second date. All you have to do is accept it as extra time to plan, plus you get to have two anniversaries!
If you’ve found yourself in this situation, I’d love to help. As a Celebrant, I’ve come to see that one of the best things we can do in some situations is to take life as it comes. With this, don’t see the situation as if you need to cancel your special day. Rather, see it as you just postponing the fun for a bit. I’m here to help the best way I can and always will be, so I thought I’d share some tips on how to reduce the stress of rescheduling your ceremony when faced with saving a new wedding date.
· Choose A New Date as Soon as You Can
If you have to postpone your wedding, you’ll face lots of uncertainty. That might make you feel like you should hold back for a bit. I understand that, but in the long run, it could hurt you. Remember, you are not the only one who has been affected.
Throughout 2020, couples have had to postpone their weddings and reschedule their vow renewals. The sooner you choose a new date, the easier it will be for you to keep your great vendors. You’ll also find that you’ll both feel better and can get started with working towards the new date.
· Don’t Rule Out Weekdays
To get started, don’t rule out weekdays. This will widen the dates available to you. You’ll be able to get most venues for a great price and your vendors will be available too. It can also be a lot of fun. A Friday wedding for example will leave you with a long and lovely weekend to relax and have fun.
Next, get some change-the-date cards. You’ll find some lovely free ones online or you could design yours on apps like Canva. Check it out, it’s not as hard as you might think it’ll be. You could also commission an online designer to make you one.
· Work with A Professional
Your guests will have some queries when you announce a date change. With other plans to make, you’ll be too busy to assuage every one of their fears and clear things up. You can have someone to handle those queries for you. While you liaise with your venue, vendors, and wedding planner, they can explain things to your guests.
This will take a tremendous amount of extra stress off your shoulders. They’ll also respond to the sympathy your guests will be offering. Once you have things set up and a new date ready, they can take on a new role. This will be to assist your guests in making new arrangements and travel plans.
· Be Flexible
For reference, look at how you had to change your wedding date. You did everything right and despite that, factors beyond your control came to play. Like I said earlier, just take it as it comes. Accept the things that you cannot change. Wasting energy trying to sort out impossible problems will only drain you and the problem will remain. So, change what you can and accept what you can’t.
For example, not all of your original suppliers might be available for your new date. That’s fine, just accept it. Keep in mind that they’ll be doing their best for you and wouldn’t want to let you down. So, they’ll offer suggestions on the best alternatives and other trusted suppliers. All you have to do is ask. This way, rather than searching from scratch, your supplier will offer you a Plan B. Don’t forget to always check your new supplier’s cancellation policy and whether they’ll refund a deposit.
· Handle Your Guest List
You’ll have to plan with the guests for your new date, too. The new day you choose should not discomfort the VIPs on your wedding list. These are the people that you feel cannot hold your wedding without. You can also put some measures in place for those who cannot make it to the wedding on the new date to still be present.
Live streaming is one way this can happen, and as your celebrant, I have no problem with letting couples live stream their wedding ceremony. Some apps like Zoom will even let you record while you Livestream so that you can have your own personal video of the ceremony.
· Mark Your Original Wedding Date Specially
All the planning you’ve done for your previous date can feel like it’s gone to waste, but I assure you it hasn’t. You’ll always remember that day, however, so how about doing something special to acknowledge it? You can open a bottle of wine and raise your glasses in salute to newer and brighter beginnings. Just keep in mind that the love you share with your partner is what matters most of all. You deserve to be happy, and changing your wedding date cannot change that. On the brighter side, you can have two anniversaries starting next year!
Being a compassionate and understanding celebrant is one of the things I take seriously here at Special Moments Celebrant. So, if you’re having your wedding in the UK and need a Celebrant who will be committed to your celebration, let’s have a chat. I’d love to hear from you.